leaving James

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  1. Gregorich says:

    I just wanted to say that I think you are a beautiful family. You will truly be missed by many and I didnt get the opportunity to know you well but feel blessed to know of you. I pray your new adventures bring you joy and happiness. Your new neighbors and friends will bask in the joy you bring into their lives.
    God bless,
    Rhonda Gregorich

  2. Sharon says:

    I never know what to say, since your posts are so beautiful. But I can imagine, though hazily, how hard it will be to start over with people who don’t know, and aren’t part of, your history. I’m praying for a smooth move, and an easy transition, and friends who will love you and understand as much as they can, and a church to embrace and be embraced by.

    And although it’s looking less and less like we’ll see you anytime soon (although if you’re ever in PA PLEASE drop by), I can’t wait to see you both, and meet Valor and James, at the great Resurrection Day to come!

    Happy Easter!

  3. Dogdancing says:

    You are bringing us blog-lurkers with you. (and you didn’t even have to find a box to put us in)
    Those of us who have been pearing into your lifes and thoughts quietly. Those of us who pray for you and your family and will never meet you.

    Cyber friends who do know your story.

    You may be going to a place no one knows James/Dora or your story, however we out here in lurkerland do. Its been a privilage and a humbling experience to quietly watch God’s work in your lifes.

    You are not leaving James. That heavy feeling you get in your heart is his weight. He will be with you always. God called him and asked him to do His work right there. That is his earthly home.

    Someday when your dropping Valor off at his college dorm, you will feel the same feelings you are feeling now. It doesn’t get any easier.

    I have three brothers who died as babies. Their ashes are in the ocean. My mama wanted them close to us no matter where we were on the planet. I have always liked that.

    James won’t suddenly disappear from your lifes just because no one where you moving to knows him or his story.

    This new place is a great oppertunity to do more of His work. A new feild to sew seeds in. A place for Valors story to unfold and a chance for God to use him to reach other souls. Just as He used James.

    It will be okay…to leave your son. After all didn’t He also?

    peace be the journey


  4. Tonya says:

    Wow. I had not even thought of James’ ashes. We’ll see what God has in mind over the next week or so. Your memories of James will always be fresh in your minds and if you need to “reminisce” with those of us who also will always remember him, you can talk with US anytime! πŸ™‚

  5. Kate in PA says:

    I loved seeing the picture of James again.

  6. Ashley M. says:

    Agreed with what Dogdancing said. Y’all will still have us, courtesy of the web πŸ™‚

    I definitely hear you about James’ ashes, too. I’m of the belief that both he & Dora are still with y’all in spirit, but that’s just me.

    Good luck with packing, and Happy Easter/Resurrection Day in advance πŸ™‚

  7. Lesley says:

    I wanted to ask you about James’ ashes and what you were going to do. Abby, I think you are doing the right thing. i can’t pretend to understand, or to know how I would feel, but in my heart, i know it’s the right decision.
    Also, this post completely sums up what we were talking about the other day. i’m SOOOO proud of you!!!!!!!!!
    Please email me (when you get the chance) and let us know where james’ ashes are. I promise we’ll go visit and spend some time.

  8. Sachu says:

    I completely agree with Dogdancing…
    I know it is hard to start over in a new place, but you still have us! We know what you have gone through, and although we do not know you physically, we do know how big your hearts are.

    I also think that James and Dora are with you, and looking after their mom and dad and little brother. I can not put myself in your shoes, but I imagine how hard it must be for you, but I think you are doing the right thing.

    Happy Easters and good luck moving!

    Sabrina from Argentina

  9. angie3278 says:

    I just wanted to tell you that I stumbled upon sweetbabyjames.info about a month ago..and I have read it from the very beginning…to your latest update here. Your story really touched my heart. I wanted to tell you a bit about my story. I have never been able to concieve so I became a foster parent..I had 2 healthy kids and then a year later I got my daughters sister. She was born with 3 holes in her heart, genetic anomolies, 1 bone in her left arm..along with other things. My sweet baby daughter…Cathrynne Louise..aka Catie or Cay-Cay for short. Catie was born on October 20, 2007. I brought her home at 2 weeks old on a constant heart moniter. She was in the hospital every month it seemed with health problems. She had OT, ST, and PT. she wore a helmet because her skull was overlapping, she wore hand braces to help her hands develop, and she wore a vest to help her learn to sit up (I still have everything!) January 2009 (after celebrating her 1st birthday 10-20-08 with her own pumpkin shaped cake) she had her first open heart surgery then on April 28th she went back to the Children’s hosptial of Detroit and on May 14th she went in for her 2nd open heart surgery ( I stayed at the Ronald McDonald house both times!) Sadly, on May 15th 2009 Catie went to be with Jesus. that was the most heart wrenching pain I will ever have to live through..and would never, ever wish on anyone. I stayed in her room holding her lifeless body for 4 hours or longer..singing to her, kissing her, and knowing she was with Jesus, where she didn’t have to hurt, wasn’t afraid of stethescopes (lol), and could walk, talk, and hold stuff with both hands. eventually I had to walk out of the room and leave my precious baby behind. On May 20th (she would have been 15 months old that day) we had her service and buried her. But I have comfort knowing she is with Jesus, along with relatives I have had to say goodbye too and that I will see her again. Her and James were very close in age..and it also brings me comfort thinking, they are playing together, running, and singing for Jesus. Thank you so much for the blog..it has touched me deeply and I will be a permenant follower. I feel like I know you all just reading about you. Good luck in your move and more fun times with Valor! I have my 7 year old adopted daughter and 4 year old son (well he will be 4 on Good Friday!), but we will never forget Cay-Cay and now James and Dora!

  10. marniesalee says:

    Through the lives of James and Dora, the Lord has used your family to bear much fruit for Him, I believe. I would guess that the number of lives that have been changed through the sharing of your faith while walking through these challenging years is far reaching. I love you all and will miss you “being in town” dearly. πŸ™‚
    Abby, thanks again for spending some time with us last week amidst all of your moving preparations. It was great to see you and Valor! Johnny G, I guess we’ll just have to bring the Newsboys video up with us next time we’re up in the NC area!

    Love you guys,


  11. Christina says:

    I, like Tonya, hadn’t even thought about James’ ashes. And as I read this post (as much as I love little Mr. Valor “Smiley Baby” as Greg just referred to him) I really do miss Baby James.

  12. Aunt Sue says:

    My first thoughts when I heard you guys were moving were how your hearts would react to leaving James. But as you both know James will be going with you–he is still in your hearts and will travel there with you always to be remembered.
    By now you guys are probably there in New Bern. I hope things go well for you as you begin this new journey. Much love!!!

  13. Eliza says:

    Don’t worry about James. He’ll be able to find you wherever you are- God will see to that. And anyone with a touch of humanity will be touched by your story. By the way, looking at these old James pics next to more recent ones of Valor, am I the only one who totally thinks they look like brothers? They have the same adorable features!

  14. New Orlando reader says:

    Maybe there is something to the fact, that when I looked up New Bern on the map, nearby is James City.

    May you find peace and happiness in NC and take comfort in those that even though they never met James or you have read your story.

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