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  1. Ronda says:

    He is so very beautifu1, congratulations again. Try to take it easy, right now all you need to do is rest, and feed the baby! Everything else can be done later or by someone else. I know it’s hard to do that but these first days are hard but they will pass quickly. I hope the nursing goes well for you. I had a lot of problems but thanks to a wonderful lactation consultant I am still nursing 20 months later. Best wishes for you all!

  2. Molly says:

    what a blessing from a God! with every day, things will fall into their place – with every challenge comes many rewards (those first smiles, coo’s, etc) Get some rest mama – you need it!

  3. Sachu says:

    What a beautiful story, Abby!!!
    Thanks so much for sharing it with us.
    The first part of your post just confirms my theory of how loved James was, is and will be.

    I imagine how hard this is…you are getting to know each other, and of course, as days pass by, you are feeling more comfortable with this amazing new profession.

    Valor is such a special guy, so loved by many people who he never met and from all over the world, even without being born!

    As these moms told you…you take good rest when you can. Other things can wait!!
    Enjoy this amazing experience!

    We are all here waiting to hear about Valor, his smiles, coo’s, uh’s, ah’s and all that is to come.

    Keep us updated! Valor might not know it yet, but lots of us are thinking of him and of course, you and John.

    Can’t wait to see more pics!



  4. Ashley says:

    How wonderful! πŸ™‚ I hope you heal quickly and that everything works out with nursing Valor soon. He’s beautiful. Congratulations once again!

  5. Charlotte says:

    Heh. He’s so gorgeous.
    In New Zealand, “Valor” would be spelt “Valour”.

    Good luck, I know nothing about raising babies, so I’ll just pray rather than offer advice πŸ™‚

  6. Tonya says:

    Love the new photo at the top of the blog. πŸ™‚

    It is overwhelming at first having a baby at home by yourself after surgery. I’ll call later today and maybe come by for a little while.

  7. Jennifer says:

    He is absolutely adorable!!! I am so happy for you guys!
    I so know that feeling of being able to bring home your baby with you! I had to leave my oldest in the NICU for 7 weeks due to him being born 12 weeks early. It was so hard to see those other moms leave with their babies. I finally got to experience it with my youngest and it was amazing! I am so happy you got to have that as well!
    Take care!

  8. sparkles4u219 says:

    How beautiful is that little man!

    I see much of the two of you in him, and I even think that he looks a tad like James!

    Best wishes to recover from your surgery quickly and get to “mommy’ing”!


  9. baumgs says:

    Thank you! Thank you! I think what we were missing was not quantity of updates, but the Mommy point of view… no offense John. I love seeing those peepers too, what a cutie!!

  10. Cathy says:

    Blessings on all of you from another fan via Cakewrecks. Have been re-reading Baby James’ precious story, and thinking that you are wonderful witnesses to God’s love for us. Thank you for allowing us to share your story.
    Cathy, South Africa

  11. Juliana says:

    I think Jared felt more bonded with Cora during the moments after her birth than I did — I remember just feeling sort of awestruck. I resonate wtih your comments about not feeling waves of love at first sight – I think it creeped in on me, with Cora, and has continued to do so.

  12. Cheree says:

    Abby, you write with such honesty. Reading your thoughts and feelings is helpful and insightful for me, as I hope to be a mommy one day. Thanks for all the updates, I look for them every night. πŸ™‚ Valor is such a precious baby boy! Praise Jesus!! Love you!

  13. melissa says:

    Funny, it was the same when my daughter was born…no love or bonding at first sight. I explained to my husband that I loved her in my head but not yet in my heart, if that makes sense. She may have been my baby but she was, for all intents and purposes, a total stranger. I feel crazy in love with her in the weeks after her birth and we bonded quite well. πŸ™‚ Other moms look at me like I’m crazy and insist they instantly loved their newborns, so I’m glad there’s someone else out there like me! I’m so glad things are going well for you guys and hope you heal quickly and are able to get some rest! Loving the beautiful photos!

  14. Jessie says:

    I’m loving the new graphic!
    I’m also loving the idea of meeting Valor soon. πŸ˜‰

  15. FrostinGal says:

    Totally hear you on the importance of the wheelchair ride out of the hospital! When our son was born, after our special needs daughter, it was a whole new world! “Normal” sometimes felt very weird. We figured it out by the time our second daughter was born though! And you are doing fine! What a blessing! Give Valor hugs and kisses from all of us!

  16. Kathy says:

    Congratulations on your healthy new addition! I loved reading about James, and I look forward to reading about Valor’s adventures.

  17. Shereen says:

    Thank you for the posts and thinking of your fans! It’s amazing how many loved ones you and your family have…some you’ll never even meet!

    Many many happy thoughts to you all.

  18. Rebecca says:

    He is BEAUTIFUL!!! I don’t know you but I’ve prayed so many times for your new little one to be here safe and healthy! So happy for you!

  19. Nancy Palmer says:

    A friend of mine shared a link to your blog on sweet baby james and I came over here to leave a comment. What a surprise to find you with a newborn! Congratulations! I’m sure you are full of joy with your new baby boy, Valor. I was diagnosed 3 weeks ago today with a baby girl who has Alobar HPE. I am currently almost 19 weeks pregnant with our 8th baby. It is not an easy walk, but I am encouraged by your testimony with James. I am in Gainesville, FL and the doctors haven’t been very supportive of Kara’s diagnosis and what to do for her afterward. I would love to “talk” to you sometime via email when you’re up to it. Kara’s blog is Blessings to you and your family!

  20. Ashley M. says:

    One day at a time πŸ™‚

    (changed my posting sig, too, since there’s another Ash on the board now!)

  21. Tiffany says:

    HE is beautiful and so are you. I love, love, love the picture of you leaving in the wheelchair. You can see the joy on both of your faces. The first few months with a newborn are so very difficult. Hang in there, pray and reach out for help when you need it.

  22. Jen says:

    What a beautiful, beautiful boy!

  23. cannopener says:

    I don’t think bonding does happen instantly at birth for humans in the way that it does in the animal kingdom. Our children are not mobile so they don’t need that instant imprinting to keep them by our sides, the way ducklings do.

    I think that having these little strangers thrust into our care reminds us that they *are* strangers to us, not ours but God’s, in our care for now but not ours to keep or control, and definitely not a part of us. I imagine that one of the great joys and terrors of parenting is the day you let them go and see whether or not you did a good job! Thankfully my oldest is only six so that day is a long way off…

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  25. Lesley and Parker says:

    I want to come over and bite his butt!!!!! Oh, Abby, It’s just so, so wonderful. I got teary at the photo of you guys all leaving the hospital as a family. I get what an amazing thing that must have been for you. So…in about 7 months, three weeks, I’ll be doing the same!!!!! “It” worked and I’m going to get to wheel “someone” out of the hospital too!!!!!
    I’ll call you soon when things settle down for you all and Parks and I will come squeeze the Big V πŸ™‚

  26. Iaukea Family says:

    Congrats Abby and John! Valor is a sweet and beautiful baby (though I do miss James’ long, gorgeous lashes!) We are so happy you finally got the wheelchair ride you deserve. Best wishes to the family.

  27. Gina says:

    I Love the picture of you being pushed out of the hospital! What a victory… Thanks again for reminding me what’s truly important in life and to not take such small things for granted. Valor is such a beautiful baby. Enjoy every minute, he’ll grow up Way too fast!!

  28. Kurtis says:

    I feel like I must share, even though it’s not terribly deep or insightful:

    I went to ask Google about “Valor Gjertsen” since I hadn’t seen the pictures yet. I typed “Valor Gjertse” (because our “n” key is sticking) and Google helpfully asked:

    Did you mean Valor Gjertsen?

    Google already knows about your new one! Tee hee!

  29. Ann Jay says:

    I love reading your blog! It reminds me so much of our family. Do I ever relate to “over doing it!” It is so hard to pace yourself so that you can have enough energy. As incredibly excited and thankful as I was to be a mother, I was an exhausted wreck until my old country doctor told me to REST! “Baby Doll, if you were a cat, you’d be doing nothing but eating, sleeping, feeding the kittens and leaving the rat chasing to somebody else!” With that advise ringing in my ear, I went home and made a list of what I thought needed to get done. Then put a check by the ones that only I could do and began concentrating on making myself do only those things. If someone called and wanted to know if there was something they could do, I just gave them something off the list! They felt include and I got better when I quit trying to do it ALL. That was over 40 years ago. My house is clean now. (I don’t think people are still talking about how cluttered my house was when the babies where little. HA!)

  30. Gemma says:

    Aw, Valor is a gorgeous baby, congrats!
    I’m sure as time goes on you’ll get used to being with, as you say, a “normal” baby, though it will be hard work in it’s own way. Congratulations again!

  31. revheff says:

    Rejoincing with you continually!

  32. revheff says:

    Make that rejoicing with you continually!

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